Jack is not my husbands actual name, but its his nickname. Jack is short for JackASS! He's my husband, I do love him..
He came home on Saturday, from a week away in Tunisia. Africa that is, if your geographically challenged like me. I have to say that I love when Jack goes away. Lately for the last few months Jack has been going through what I am referring to as MANopause. He is unhappy, he picks at things.. the house, the kids... me. Everything is wrong all the time, nothing is right..
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He got home Saturday afternoon, had dinner, then went to bed. Sunday morning he was woken up very nicely (if I do say so myself!) Then had to go take G to ODP tryouts (ODP = Olympic Development Program) more about that later... Only to come home about 5pm... and the MANopause was unleashed...
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Our family Infractions...
1. I didn't mail a card that had been sitting on his dresser for 4 months, and only last week was critical that it got mailed, because it was very important to him... hmmmm Seriously if it was that important you would have mailed it 4 mos ago right? And how did a distant cousin that he has never met become that important? Lack of Dedication
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2. I went over my minutes on my cellphone. I said I was sorry. Didn't realize... Lack of interest
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3. J (oldest of the boys) apparently signed up for something that was 10 dollars ring tone thing on his phone.. My fault.. Lack of supervision.. Yup I should be supervising my 14 year old son 24/7 making sure he doesn't do a stupid 14 year old thing..
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4. J left his phone in his jeans, and I washed them.. but that is my fault as I should be checking my 14 year olds clothes before I wash them... Lack of interest..
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5. G our rising star athlete.. got a bit winded at ODP .. duhhh you think? 6 hours of running with some of the top athletes in South Texas? my fault... lack of dedication of making G get out every morning and running 5 miles and drinking his protein.
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6. B our youngest, didn't get a page of his homework done last week. Lack of interest and dedication..
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7. B woke up Jack this morning while looking for me while I was on the toilet. Lack of dedication and interest.. ohhh ya .. lack of supervision.
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All of these infractions were enough to send Jack out the door in a rage, after only spending 2 hours with our family. Nothing like a bit of quality time eh? Am I crazy to think these things are just .. ohhh well things? At the end of the day.. the kids get A's and B's, they are all involved in sports, J has Aspergers and is functioning amazingly well. B is .. well its only kindergarten.. So he acts like a very spoiled 5 year old. and Im blaming Dora for that, she didn't do her job. Or maybe the 2 years of preschool we payed for that never taught him his ABC's...
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I don't know.. We have a great house, some pretty awesome kids, a smelly dog. He has a pretty decent job, bills get paid. We go on a holiday every year. This is the freaken American Dream! So what am I missing?
Sounds like he has something on his mind. But yeah, I totally know what that is like. Can you sit down with him and tell him that you've noticed he gets upset about every little thing and want to know what is going on and "what you can do to help." That way he doesn't get all defensive. :P
ReplyDeleteLeaving in a huff rather than assisting as a father should is a lack of supervision, a lack of responsibility, a lack of interest, and a lack of dedication.
ReplyDeleteParenting isn't YOUR job it's both of your jobs. I'm inclined to disagree with asking him "what you can do to help". Screw that...TELL him what HE can do to help! :)
I know how he feels sometimes I get MANopause but it might be from 4 hrs a sleep per night and getting up at 1am. I never leave the house in a huff and I try to do my part as a father. Not like my wife does but I try. I would talk to him to see what is up. Maybe it is something very trivial that is making him go off. If that is not the answer maybe home just pisses him off. Just my opinion though. I hope it works out.
ReplyDeletemy husband has been like this the last year..he's grumpy and checked out. It's definitely time to regroup!
ReplyDeleteMy husband has been the same way for the past few months! I can't joke around with him; everything I say is taken seriously. I know he's frustrated with his job but it's getting ridiculous. I keep asking him to talk to me and he keeps saying nothing is wrong. I'm pretty fed up! Men can be stupid.
ReplyDelete(((HUGS))) Like Trisha said he must have something on his mind. Try a talk with him maybe? But yeah he's def. being a jackass.
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Greg- I meant the "asking what you can do to help" as a polite way of informing him to knock it off. More of the you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar saying. Yes, I think he needs to change his tactics, but sometimes by bringing up ways you can change makes guys more willing to change themselves. Does that make sense? :D
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